Work
No other addiction is so willingly adopted, rewarded
and praised by society as the addiction to work. It can
prove quite a complicated issue, as the individual may
only be looking after their family, and trying to meet
all their needs. As children grow up, of course, their
needs seem to get more and more expensive. What good,
however, is a worn out mother, father or partner? What
good if the relationship breaks up? When did a bleeding
ulcer become a sign of success? Is a seventy-hour working
week a sign of efficiency?
The person may be too set
in their ways to slow down, not secure enough in themselves
to say no, and/or find
it difficult to delegate or ask for help. Even Jesus
Christ needed helpers and time away to rest and relax.
Workaholism, overwork or overdoing it is a big problem,
nowhere more so than in Japan where around 10,000
workers/year die from working 60-70 hour working weeks.*
This is now known in
Japan as Karachi, meaning death from overwork.
Society measures us by what we do, rather than
by who/how we are and what we believe. Our job is more
important
than our view on global warming for instance. Clearly
some occupations are considered in a different
class than others. Sadly all this can lead us to believe
that the predetermining factor to our sense of
self
worth
is measured by what we do. This can lead us to
become detached from who we really are.
Other myths,
which make it difficult to recognize that overdoing
it or workaholism is a major problem
in our
society today are that: overdoing it is a positive
way of life; it is not physically or psychologically
addictive;
it is not harmful to health, physical or mental;
that it is always caused by high pressure jobs
or demanding
family life of the 21st Century; that it is motivated
by job loyalty or by our desire to provide a
decent living for our family or to make a worthwhile
contribution
to
society.*
Workaholism is an addictive pattern
like any other addiction. Some people get an adrenaline
high from
juggling four
or five commitments, taking care of others
or simply of being busy or of being the first person
in the
office in the morning or of being the last
to leave in the
evening. Maybe they think that this is what
the company expects
of them, sadly this is sometimes true. Common
symptoms may also be forgetfulness or inattention,
with
awareness impaired by stress and fatigue.
So
what is behind this desire to push ourselves to the
very limit, sometimes risking all we
have - health,
family,
friends. The roots are common to all addictions,
not within our fast culture or the way we
were brought up, not even within our boss, or our
family. They
may
contribute
to and/or reward our self destructive behaviour,
but the cause lies deep within us. The roots
are often
in our, unfulfilled or unmet needs. The feeling
within us
is that we have to achieve a certain standard,
or amount of work before we can become accepted
as a
person.
The belief is that we are of little worth
as we are, on our
own. Taking the responsibility ourselves,
not leaving it with others, and finding out what
is pushing
us gives us the tools to change. We may have
feelings of low self
esteem, or of inadequacy, believing nothing
we ever
do will be good enough, the result is that
we keep striving
trying to do more and better. Work may also
provide us with temporary relief from pain
from a broken
relationship, or from boredom or guilt or
many other feelings we
may
want to avoid.
Are you a workaholic? The
following test was devised to help you
evaluate.
Score: 1 = never true; 2 = sometimes true;
3 = often true; 4 = always true. Total
up your score,
then
look at the scale below.
Work Addiction
Risk Test1
1. I prefer to do things myself rather
than ask for help
2. I get very impatient
when I have to wait for other people, or am in
slow
moving queues
3. I seem to be in
a hurry and racing against the clock
4. I get irritated
when I am interrupted while I am in the middle of something
5. I stay busy and keep many 'irons in the fire'
6.
I find myself doing two or three things at once,
such as
eating
and writing a
memo
7. I over commit myself
by biting off more than
I can
chew
8. I feel guilty
when I am not working on something
9. It is important
that I see the concrete
results of what
I do
10. I am more
interested in the final results
of my work
than
in the process
11. Things just never seem to move
fast
enough or
get done
fast enough
for me
12. I
lose my temper when things
don't
go my way
or work out
to suit me
13. I ask the same question,
without
realizing
it after I have
already been
given the
answer
14.
I spend a lot of
time planning
and thinking
about
future
events, forgetting
the here
and
now
15.
I find myself
continuing
to
work
after my co-workers
have
finished
16. I
get
angry when
people
do
not meet
my
standards of perfection
17.
I
get upset
when
I
am in
situations
where
I
can
not
be
in
control
18. I
tend to
put myself
under pressure
with self
imposed deadlines
19.
It is
hard for
me to
relax when
I am
not working
20.
I spend
more time
working than
on socialising,
hobbies or
leisure activities
21.
I dive
into projects
to get
a head
start before
all the
phases have
been finalised
22.
I get
upset with
myself for
making even
the smallest
mistake
23.
I put
more thought,
time and
energy into
my work
than relationships
with other
people
24.
I forget,
ignore, minimise
family celebrations
such as
birthdays or
holidays for
example
25.
I make
important decisions
before I
have all
the facts
and have
thought them
through
Well
how did
you do?
If you
scored:
25
- 49
= You
are not
overdoing
it
50
- 69
= You
are
mildly
overdoing
it
70
-
100
=
You
are
highly
overdoing
it
The work addiction, like any of the other addictions
is a difficult cycle to break. Like all the other addictions,
however, it is possible. The first and most difficult
step is acknowledging that we are responsible and the
problem is within us, which must be resolved.
The Bible
has much to say on addiction to work (for our own good).
For instance:
'Do not wear yourself out to get rich; have wisdom
to show restraint. Cast but a glance at riches, and
they
are gone, for they will surely sprout wings and fly
off to the sky like an eagle.'
Proverbs 23 v 4 & 5.
New International Version. By permission.
The implication
here of course, like all addictions, is that we will
never be satisfied and will always be
wanting to earn more money to buy that special item,
like a butterfly that we never can quite catch, so
will be our desires here.
* 'Work Addiction' and 'Overdoing It' - both by Bryan
Robinson PhD, published by Health Communications and
available from:
Airlift Book Co, 8 The Arena, Molison Ave, Enfield, Middlesex
EN3 7NJ Tel: 0208 443 5333
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